BrittanyAlissa
Sunday, April 14, 2013
Custom Wigs
Hey Beauties,
I am so proud to announce that All about beauty 1on1 will be selling wigs in the next upcoming months on the website. I will be posting a video of a custom wig that I just completed and if you guys are interested in having one made feel free to send me and email. XOXO Brittanyalissa
Jcp Haul
Hey Beauties,
I went to JCP and did a little shopping, I am so happy with all the items that I purchased and I'm even more excited that I get to share them with all of you.. I hope you all enjoy...
XOXO Brittanyalissa
XOXO Brittanyalissa
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Expectations in a relationship
Hey Beauties,
So I am back with another post. This one just happened to pop in my mind not to long ago and I wanted to just share it with all of you.
Knowing what you want and expressing it to your partner
I know that this particular topic can also apply to other things in life but the way that I'm going to talk about it is exclusively in the form of relationships.
I truly feel that if a person is not doing or contributing to what you want or need in a relationship then you SHOULD walk away. Should being the operative word in that sentence simply because not everyone can differentiate between the whole want and need aspect of a relationship.
I was never one for following the whole honey moon faze, I feel that if you are yourself then the person has a right to decide wether or not they want to be with you. Being phony or fake doesn't allow the person trying to get to know you; see the true you! And in the end can be crucial in determining the rest of that "relationship". It should also be in that beginning faze that your wants and needs are addressed. Always remember that COMMUNICATION is the key.
I.E: If you want flowers every week then that should be said, and If you know that you need attention then that should also be stated.
The reason behind all of this is to eliminate the amount of time being wasted. If I am getting to know someone and they lay all of their cards on the table and I genuinely feel that what their asking for is beyond what I am capable of, then I can then be honest and allow them to find someone who is both willing and able to give them exactly what their looking for.
I'm going to list some topics that come up in everyday relationships that should be both expressed and laid out on the table in order to either move forward or walk away.
NEW relationships
#1- Whether or not you are already involved- This SHOULD be important although it sometimes falls through the cracks of what someone people consider to be"Important".
The reason why this should be addressed during the earlier stages is simply because it allows the person getting involved know whether or not the other party is in it for the long haul or if "that"situation is going to be just a fling. For example if I am looking for a relationship and the guy is already in one then I know that he can not give me what I'm looking for.
It is extremely hard to try to enter into a relationship with a bunch of skeletons lying around. The person is going to notice if you were being honest or not because things will not be the way that should be. Phone calls will cease to exist and spending time will find its way to the back burner. It truly makes no sense to lead another person on. Playing with someones emotions is never Ok...
#2- What are your expectations entering that "Relationship" - The reason behind this is simple. It avoids wasted time. If I know that I'm not looking for a serious relationship then it makes no sense to pretend that I am. This can also be applied to how that relationship will function.. Always remember that honesty is the best medicine and it allows the involved parties to either stay of walk away.
#3- Sex- Ok so this topic comes up all the time whether your a virgin or already sexual active. If sex is the main goal in that situation then it should be addressed ASAP. It makes absolutely no sense to sit around and expect a serious commitment if you were already informed about whats going on. Thats why it is truly a great idea to make it known what you expect. It's nothing wrong with wanting or committing to a fling, just make sure that both parties are on the same page.
Now i'm going to break down how those same topics apply for
OLDER relationships
#1- You can switch question #1 around and get this for older couples. ARE YOU NOW INVOLVED WITH ANYONE BUT ME- It is a known fact that people cheat. It doesn't matter if the topic was addressed before or not it still can happen. Now if it happens it should be brought up. It's not fair to keep something so drastic from the person your with. Allow them the right to get over it or to move on and get over the hurt.
#2 -What are your expectations entering that "Relationship"- Just because you set expectations doesn't mean that the person you fall in love with will be able to truly fulfill all of them. At that point it is up to you to decided what you can tolerate and what you can't.
#3- Sex- I love this topic.
Where do I begin? Ok so if you and your partner are sexually active then this topic should always be addressed. How is your partner going to know what you like if it isn't discussed? You can't assume that they are either going to like, or perform the what and how you want them to. Getting comfortable may be the #1 reason why certain things aren't talked about. Sex can get boring rather quickly, so make sure to keep the other person informed of you your wants and needs.
Another simple thing that applies to both OLD and NEW relationships is consistency.
If the relationship is great then there's no reason why it can't remain that way. YES I am aware that debates and arguments happen, no 2 people will agree on everything. Every person is different and that in itself makes trying to be involved with another person difficult. But with communication comes forgiveness. All I mean by consistency is to try your hardest to keep the normal things normal.
I.E: If there are text 3xs a day then keep it that way. Sometimes change brings about insecurities. And if there is a set date night twice a week then there should be an attempt to ensure that it stays that way. The only way things should change is if it is communicated and everyone is on the same page. This will insure that no one is left out and the relationship can function without and glitches. It isn't realistic to have everything the same exact way all of the time but just make sure that it is addressed in enough time to avoid things from becoming strained.
I hope you all enjoyed this post and found it helpful.
XOXO Brittanyalissa
So I am back with another post. This one just happened to pop in my mind not to long ago and I wanted to just share it with all of you.
Knowing what you want and expressing it to your partner
I know that this particular topic can also apply to other things in life but the way that I'm going to talk about it is exclusively in the form of relationships.
I truly feel that if a person is not doing or contributing to what you want or need in a relationship then you SHOULD walk away. Should being the operative word in that sentence simply because not everyone can differentiate between the whole want and need aspect of a relationship.
I was never one for following the whole honey moon faze, I feel that if you are yourself then the person has a right to decide wether or not they want to be with you. Being phony or fake doesn't allow the person trying to get to know you; see the true you! And in the end can be crucial in determining the rest of that "relationship". It should also be in that beginning faze that your wants and needs are addressed. Always remember that COMMUNICATION is the key.
I.E: If you want flowers every week then that should be said, and If you know that you need attention then that should also be stated.
The reason behind all of this is to eliminate the amount of time being wasted. If I am getting to know someone and they lay all of their cards on the table and I genuinely feel that what their asking for is beyond what I am capable of, then I can then be honest and allow them to find someone who is both willing and able to give them exactly what their looking for.
I'm going to list some topics that come up in everyday relationships that should be both expressed and laid out on the table in order to either move forward or walk away.
NEW relationships
#1- Whether or not you are already involved- This SHOULD be important although it sometimes falls through the cracks of what someone people consider to be"Important".
The reason why this should be addressed during the earlier stages is simply because it allows the person getting involved know whether or not the other party is in it for the long haul or if "that"situation is going to be just a fling. For example if I am looking for a relationship and the guy is already in one then I know that he can not give me what I'm looking for.
It is extremely hard to try to enter into a relationship with a bunch of skeletons lying around. The person is going to notice if you were being honest or not because things will not be the way that should be. Phone calls will cease to exist and spending time will find its way to the back burner. It truly makes no sense to lead another person on. Playing with someones emotions is never Ok...
#2- What are your expectations entering that "Relationship" - The reason behind this is simple. It avoids wasted time. If I know that I'm not looking for a serious relationship then it makes no sense to pretend that I am. This can also be applied to how that relationship will function.. Always remember that honesty is the best medicine and it allows the involved parties to either stay of walk away.
#3- Sex- Ok so this topic comes up all the time whether your a virgin or already sexual active. If sex is the main goal in that situation then it should be addressed ASAP. It makes absolutely no sense to sit around and expect a serious commitment if you were already informed about whats going on. Thats why it is truly a great idea to make it known what you expect. It's nothing wrong with wanting or committing to a fling, just make sure that both parties are on the same page.
Now i'm going to break down how those same topics apply for
OLDER relationships
#1- You can switch question #1 around and get this for older couples. ARE YOU NOW INVOLVED WITH ANYONE BUT ME- It is a known fact that people cheat. It doesn't matter if the topic was addressed before or not it still can happen. Now if it happens it should be brought up. It's not fair to keep something so drastic from the person your with. Allow them the right to get over it or to move on and get over the hurt.
#2 -What are your expectations entering that "Relationship"- Just because you set expectations doesn't mean that the person you fall in love with will be able to truly fulfill all of them. At that point it is up to you to decided what you can tolerate and what you can't.
#3- Sex- I love this topic.
Where do I begin? Ok so if you and your partner are sexually active then this topic should always be addressed. How is your partner going to know what you like if it isn't discussed? You can't assume that they are either going to like, or perform the what and how you want them to. Getting comfortable may be the #1 reason why certain things aren't talked about. Sex can get boring rather quickly, so make sure to keep the other person informed of you your wants and needs.
Another simple thing that applies to both OLD and NEW relationships is consistency.
If the relationship is great then there's no reason why it can't remain that way. YES I am aware that debates and arguments happen, no 2 people will agree on everything. Every person is different and that in itself makes trying to be involved with another person difficult. But with communication comes forgiveness. All I mean by consistency is to try your hardest to keep the normal things normal.
I.E: If there are text 3xs a day then keep it that way. Sometimes change brings about insecurities. And if there is a set date night twice a week then there should be an attempt to ensure that it stays that way. The only way things should change is if it is communicated and everyone is on the same page. This will insure that no one is left out and the relationship can function without and glitches. It isn't realistic to have everything the same exact way all of the time but just make sure that it is addressed in enough time to avoid things from becoming strained.
I hope you all enjoyed this post and found it helpful.
XOXO Brittanyalissa
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