It has been forever since I have been on here and a lot has changed since then.
I am now a mother of 3 beautiful children and they truly are the lights of my life, but that isn't what I am writing about today. Today's post will be from a extremely intimate deep place and I hope you all find some comfort in it.
Have you ever wondered what happened to marriages? You know the ones from back in the day! The ones were the men worked to provide for their families while the women either worked from home or were stay at home mothers. The marriages where the women cooked and the husbands bought the occasional flowers to show his appreciation.
Well now a days people take marriage as a joke. "Death do us part" turns out to be "till problems do us part" and it's a sad and unfortunate situation. Men no longer see their marriages as partnerships, they don't think about being providers, instead they sit at home while the women are the bread winners.
The problem is that most of us jump head 1st into situations and then sit in sorrow when it all turns to shit. Before jumping into anything you have to make sure that everyone's intentions are the same.
Does he have a career? does she have a career?
Can he/she cook?
What is her take on religion? Does he believe in God?
Does she have children? Does he take care of his children?
What is her/his take on monogamy?
Those are just some of the questions most of us neglect to ask before taking things to the next level. Financial issues are the #1 reason why couples get divorced within the 1st year of marriage, the 2nd is infidelity. We grow up believing that men are suppose to be head of household, but what happens when a man doesn't provide? What happens if he doesn't know HOW to take on a task as huge as being "head of household"? Do you walk away? Or do you wait for him to get it together?
What happens when you crave affection, attention and romance and your partner doesn't know how to show or give it? These are all of the questions that can't be answered when you enter into a partnership without asking all of the necessary questions. In today's society it's no longer a sole concern to just ask the basic questions like "do you smoke" or "what's your favorite color" because although important; it isn't what's going to get you to the next level. Marriage is suppose to be about compromise, having a partner in LIFE, a best friend, a person that you vow forever with and actually strive reaching forever with. We all have fictitious views of what marriage should or shouldn't be and when we get the opposite we ignore the vows and go back on the prow searching for better again but when does the cycle end? And does better exist?
