Did you all miss me? Well I'm back and I wanna share something that's been on my mind.
As you all know, I come to you all every once in a while with my thoughts and views on relationships, and today is one of those days... Today's topic is, STARTING A NEW FRESH RELATIONSHIP after you've suffered a broken heart...........
I've written about what to do when your in a relationship to keep the spice alive, and I've also giving you all my views on when to leave a relationship that isn't beneficial to all your needs.. Now I have to touch the topic of what to do when you want New love but your afraid of what will happen when things don't work out the way you've hoped.
NOW LETS GET STARTED
Months have passed since your last relationship and you feel that it's time to move on but the fear of reliving the hurt that was felt is a constant reminder, so what do you do??..... A lot of us join these dating sites in hopes that we'll find Mr. or Mrs. right and all we end up getting out of that is "Wasted time".
Well lets just say you do meet the one your suppose to spend the rest of your life with, how do you go at it without bringing all the baggage from your last relationship. (You know all the pain and heartache!)
Well here are my thoughts on all of this. HERE ARE 3 RULES I FOLLOW WHEN STARTING OVER
1: I NEVER hold innocent people accountable for the pain and heartache I've suffered from a failed relationship, although the pain may still be much so relevant; it isn't the new person's fault..
2: I go into a new relationship with an open mind, I always use this metaphor: I jump into the pool without knowing how to swim... And what I mean by this is, you may not know what it takes to make "that" specific relationship work but as long as you go into it with a positive attitude and pray for the best you can't expect anything but the best..
3: I always communicate my wants and needs with the new person I'm with.... You can't expect anyone to know your needs if you don't express them. Starting over means starting fresh, and this means communicating about everything under the sun... Communication is a key point to any successful relationship so why not start at the beginning....
SO THERE YOU HAVE IT
Those are my rules, and most of the time they work... Unfortunately there are those insistence's when that person may not be the one for you, but that shouldn't stop you from wanting to still try, try and try again.. Who knows You perfect fit can be right under your nose, but if your not open to new experiences then you may be allowing a wonderful possibility to slip right threw your fingers... I hope this was helpful....
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