What Is DATING???

Hey Beauties,
                   So let me 1st start off by saying that I hope everyone is having an amazing summer.
Now with that being said I want to jump into today's topic.
                                                                         "DATING"
The other day I was with a group of friends and the conversation of dating and relationships kept coming up. As you can imagine this topic is so "Normal" that everyone seems to be having it on a day to day basis. But what got me to writing about it; is the specific question that kept being asked.     "WHAT IS DATING"?
So it seems that just because we all talk about it, doesn't mean we know or understand exactly what it means so here is a look at it from my point of view...
Dating 1on1... ( I actually like the sound of that ).. HMMMM... LOL but back to regular scheduled programming.
Dating to me is the space between full on commitment and friendship.
To date doesn't mean to sleep with or get attached, but simply two people going out enjoying each others company.
The problem that a lot of people seem to be having is that they don't DATE 1st, instead they jump into these serious relationships and wonder why after a few months it all goes down hill.
IE: I don't consider going to someones house for a day; a date. A date to me is both parties agreeing on a destination (BEFORE HAND), scheduling it, and going through with it.
Whether you guys meet at the destination or he/she picks you up doesn't really mater, all that matters is that the date is happening which allows each of you to get to know the other that much better..
Here is a list of 3 good dates and 3 horrible dates

Good 
1. A restaurant- The reason why this is a good date is because although at times it may be a bit noisy, it allows both parties to make eye contact which makes conversing that much easier.

2. Bowling- This shows how competitive your future partner can be and it also shows whether or not the person has a great sense of humor.

3. Ice cream in the park- Communication is key to any successful relationship/friendship, and what better place to talk 1on1 than at a park?

Bad
1. The Movies- How can you talk with a person you just met at the movies? For 2-3 hours your sitting in complete silence which means your no closer to knowing this person than before you met. (What a waste)

2. A CLUB- Umm like seriously.. Have you ever tried to hold a conversation over loud music? Well I have and I was hoarse the next day. Theres just something about screaming at each other all night that just isn't all that great.

3. A Strip Club- Sooooo .....Ummmmmm........ Wellll.......
Would you be comfortable with your date talking you to a place that nudity is front and center?

NOW although those good and bad date ideas are on these list does not mean that once you have been dating over a course of time that they can't become good options. (It truly depends on the people, chemistry and situation.)
And trust me I have done most of the do's and don'ts, but the art of it all is learning from each and every situation...........................................
Once you feel comfortable enough and have spent some time together the conversation of whether to start a relationship or to be friends should be brought up. Especially if a relationship was the goal from the gate. There is nothing worse than wanting someone exclusively and not know where you stand!!

So to sum all of this stuff up
Dating: Is getting to know someone before putting a title such as boyfriend or girlfriend on the situation.
It allows you to be open, and upfront about things most people won't. It also allows both parties the option of walking away before the whole relationship thing starts, therefore preventing hearts from getting broken and feelings from getting hurt.
                                       Questions from my actual talk with friends
1. How long should you date before starting a relationship? It is up to the individuals but for me I know after 3 dates if I want a person exclusively.
2. Can you have sex during this time? Again it depends on the people. But sex builds more emotion and if it doesn't turn into a committed relationship, someone can end up getting emotionally hurt. (So Be Careful!)
3. Can you date more than one person at a time? Honestly I don't do this, but again some people do.
4. What happens if you catch feeling while still in the dating phase? Feelings happen, and if it does then that's more of a reason to start a relationship.

I hope you all found this helpful. Leave your comments below giving me your point of views.

XOXO BrittanyAlissa